I filed. I feel like I lost the fight. He chose his alcohol and OW over his sweet family.
You did NOT lose the fight.
At least not by filing.
"Losing the fight" would be letting him wipe out all the savings and maybe
mortgage the house ( you're not on the deed or loan) and then waiting for him to file
AFTER he wreaks more havoc and damage...
You contained the damage and protected yourself/kids...marital assets...
for all we know, you kept the "Road Home" MORE "Paved and Smooth" if he
comes back, b/c
he won't have to deal with as much damage as HE was going to cause.
Sheesh Life...don't forget the choices you were left with...
you did what you could, and besides, many (a third) of divorces that get filed in
my state are never completed. Some wake up after they see the papers.
This may be over. It may not be.
But I'm betting he'll see his kids more down the road and that's the least that will happen.
If not, if he really stays "dropped out", then I guess you have your answer
anyhow and you will be even more clear that you did the right thing.
I geuninely hope this wakes him up but more importantly, YOU must realize
he left you with no other (healthy) choice.
DBing is about your survival first, saving your m second...you protected your kids.
Period.
Hold your head high.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
