My husband has requested a transfer. That is why we leave in Nov. He will not go to C. He says he did it because he no longer cared about us and only cared about her. He fell in love with her because he was not happy with me and our fighting. Sounds like you are saying there is no hope based on how he is...
Where did I say there was no hope? I said don't expect his feelings for OW to diminish while he's still in contact with her.
Is MCing a dealbreaker for you? I do think that without no-contact (even if you have to wait until November to get that) and marriage counseling, your road will be very, very difficult. Even WITH those things, the recidivism rate for infidelity is fairly high (33-50%?). WITHOUT them, I'd estimate that it's up over 90%.
