1. Do I want an open marriage? Yes, but I have the jitters. Some will say it really means no, but what I have are feelings of nervousness, supposed to be natural I read, as I face what polyamory folks believe is the inevitable truth that I will never be the "end all, be all" for my wife. Depending on how militant they are some will go as far as to claim that no one person will ever be enough for anybody. ( I know most folks disagree,) not sure of where I stand on that one yet. I also recognized that well I have some unmet needs too. I see some of my single friends, and really envy them sometimes. So I am being pretty open minded on this. I have my fears, but those "should" subside in time if we are doing this right.
2. Do you consider an open m a healthy one? Depends, as my friend says: "as long as everyone involved is having a good time then it's all good". I also found another quote "relationships are hard, open ones are harder." this umm project will probably be the hardest thing we do as a couple. I think ALOT of work is required from the both of us. It also could lead to ALOT of personal work. For myself I want to work on my jealousy, control, and insecurity issues. I think I could learn valuable lessons. She has her own demons, she'll have to work on. She tends to ignore issues until they are in her face. You can't get more in your face than this. As long as we both work hard I think we could have something that is more than healthy. As long as, as they say in the lingo, we remain each others primaries. We should be ok. With that though comes the responsibility of soothing your partner if he or she feels he no longer is the primary, this may also mean cutting back for the sake of your partner if necessary.
3. Will jealousy be an issue? Absolutely, well I finally have a chance to try to work on it. I read an article that asserted that jealousy stems from fears, if I want this to work I need to tackle that one.
