M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I would not take my husband for granted anymore. I would make time for date nights at least once a fortnight. I would not work at night after he got home. I would not watch tv in the lounge room until late. I would schedule (I hate that word) sex at least 2 - 3 times a week. I would kiss him goodbye in the morning, and kiss him welcome home at night. I would put messages telling him how much I love him in his lunch. I would make sure that I was lying in bed beside him before he went to sleep (instead of being out watching tv). I would hold his hand when we walk anywhere. I would take time everyday after the kids had gone to bed to listen to him. To ask him how his day was. To find out how he really is. I would organise a night or two away for just us at least 4 times a year. I would try to spice up our love life - I would iniate sex, and also try it in different places, and different positions, etc.
Will you marry me?
Good stuff Julz.
Be well.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
If only my H had of known that if he had of just told me how unhappy he was that I would have then taken the effort to give him what he wants. It's not because I didn't want to give him what he wanted - just that I didn't realise that life had gotten that much in the way of our relationship.
I still cringe when I remember the night he wanted to ML on the trampoline - I laughed at him - now I realise exactly how I made him feel - how rejected he must have been. Makes me so sad that I made the man I love feel so awful and hurt inside.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
If only my H had of known that if he had of just told me how unhappy he was that I would have then taken the effort to give him what he wants. It's not because I didn't want to give him what he wanted - just that I didn't realise that life had gotten that much in the way of our relationship.
I still cringe when I remember the night he wanted to ML on the trampoline - I laughed at him - now I realise exactly how I made him feel - how rejected he must have been. Makes me so sad that I made the man I love feel so awful and hurt inside.
If he ever brings those things up, you say
"I'd do a lot of things differently if I had them to do over again..."
and when he brings up something totally OFF base and not true, you can say
"Wow, I don't recall it that way at all but I'm sorry you were hurt."
See he can't argue with either answer and you do make it clear that things would be different now than before...
I know you have a lot of regrets... He does own some things too. But I hear your regret and realization of your mistakes and I have to say it's a brave thing to face.
And you are an improved woman. (I mean this)
& GOOD FOR YOU!!
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I am taking a lot more effort with my appearance. I'm a professional but run my business from home. I used to always be in jeans or shorts. I hated my old body. I am now dressing professionally each working day and embracing my new body shape. I love the way I look at present (and still have more weight to lose). I love shopping for new clothes now (which is good because I have to pretty much replace my entire wardrobe). I'm wearing clothes that I would never ever have before. The frumpy mummy is gone. I am now a sexy mummy!
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
I need a new laptop. My H works in IT. I desperately want to ask him for advice on what to get. He's always dealt with all my computer problems. Now I have no idea what to do
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
