Hi Everyone, Ive been away from the board for awhile. Just trying to cope and make sense of everything. Dont think Ive gotten very far. I did get good news about my test results. The results were negative but I will be having some major surgery in the next month or so. Again its hard to go through these major events alone. I havent had much communication with H. Actually it was 2 weeks and then I asked him for some new insurance info and he pretty much told me he wouldnt do me any favors and drop what he was doing to help me get the info. He said some nasty things, which is not the person i have known for so long, sighting different things I HAVE DONE TO HIM lately. He sounded so bitter, and accusatory with his words. All this via texting. I couldnt just take what he said so I stood up for myself and told him what i thought. Maybe its not the right "approach" but i had to. It made me feel better for awhile then I felt quilty again. Today again i had to ask him about new health benefits (he switched jobs) and he sounded so angry again. Its like he lies to me, then I catch him in the lies and then he shuts up or doesnt respond to my responses to him. I just dont get it. How did I make this person so bitter, so angry, so unhappy? Its something I struggle with everyday. I know I hear from so many that its nothing I did but I feel I have a great part in it. I feel like I really have no meaning in his life anymore. NONE! As far as the D proceedings go, they really arent going anywhere. This is a man who filed in feb and wanted this finished this month. But he has done nothing to proceed with it. Just filed the papers thats it. No offer of a settlement or anything. He was acting strange a few weeks ago when he insisted he needed things out of our house so he decided to "come in" one day when i wasnt home. I showed up when he was here. He doesnt have a key to our house since the locks were changed. He was so cold, so distant and the things he wanted were so bizarre. But he needed them asap. I called the police because he was taking things out of the house that have not been agreed on. He surely didnt like that but I told him not to come and take the things, yet. Plus our granddaughter was visiting and I didnt want her to be put in the middle of anything or around when he was here. He disregarded my very friendly request. So thats about it. Still very confused, hurt, sad. Feel very betrayed. But still am having a hard time getting past this man. Thanks everyone for all your thoughts.
