See, I do know me. And I get joy from lovingly serving people. I enjoy giving things away. I live a simple life myself, but share all that I have with my family. The REAL Tina WANTS to share everything with her husband! But I feel exploited when I get nothing but disrespect in return. When he treats me like I don't exist, that my needs don't matter at all. I want him to try to meet my needs so I can feel good about giving him everything I can to make his life wonderful! But it doesn't work somehow.
See - I call "major justification" here ... and I have some experience. Get thee to an IC.
The REAL Tina may be a generous spirit, infused with the with the spirit of giving. Does Tina think that "giving" is what makes her loveable?
In an earlier post you said ....
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He does know I hold all the cards...he adores his kids, and likes having a comfortable lifestyle he could never afford. He also knows deep down I am perfectly capable of functioning without him. When I am not being emotional, I know that, too.
What worries me about this is that all the reasons for his staying (in your opinion) are about things other than you.
Tina - you are loveable just as you are. I understand the joy that can be had in sharing what you have, but I know even more joy is available in being loved for who you are, rather than what you can give. You are are on a journey to learn that too.
(((hugs)))
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
