We got into a major fight and discussion on the weekend about us. And she just said the same things: Why she won't give it a chance and try to make the M work. Her reasons: she got scared that she would be in an unhappy marriage She loves me as a good friend She doesn't want to bring kids into an unhappy marriage and feels she would be trapped in Australia if we did and it went wrong again She felt she could never make me happy I didn't show and express my love for her enough I treated her too much like my best friend and not a wife She doesn't trust us a a couple anymore She feels all my family and friends all look down on her now
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
I tried not too. I guess she just hurt me a lot by not even calling me on my birthday, all she did was text me. So I had a go at her about it. I thought it would have been the decent thing to do by her given we have spent 8 pretty happy years together, and I'm not the worst husband in the world. I think I will just go the say nothing route. She has 'moved on' so I guess I have to as well. Thanks for your thoughts Country
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
Very frustrated, and very disappointed it's come to this. No, as per the above posts I won't talk to her or contact her now. She has given me the "sorry Cam we just need to move on from this" line, so there's nothing I can do.
A lot of it is true to me. I went through a really bad patch with work and I wasn't coping and I was bringing it home. I was unhappy and nothing she did made it better. She felt it was all too hard. I wasn't affectionate enough and at times I did treat like my best friend too much or one of the boys and not like a wife. I didn't tell her she was beautiful enough. So I feel I am to blame for a lot of this, if I had taken proper notice of her when she would bring it up, I probably wouldn't be here now. It does sting, it really hurts as I have now finally woken up and I don't get the chance to prove that I am back to the person she fell in love with - the happy, fun Cam and work isn't my life. I lost sight of my priorities, I was chasing a senior career and I couldn't handle the pressure and stress and it made me unhappy. I wasn't coping and it scared her off. Scared her that things would be difficult in the future, and she would be trapped in Australia if we had kids.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
My brother in law in the States (soon to be ex brother in law) told me to look at this program as a friend of his had bought into it. www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com by Larry Bilotta. Does anyone know of this guy or the program and any thoughts on how effective it is??
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
