OK, Hubby is in MLC...but do I have to PAY for it?

[Tina2111]

I know, I know!!! That's the thing. You work hard all your life, you generiously share everything you have ... and then it kind of backfires!

I liked Starskey's post about how God never sends us challenges that we don't need to learn. It's true that learning to say no, and stick up for ourselves are some of the most important things we can learn in life.

It's scary - becasue what if "they" don't like you if you don't agree with them, or give them what they are asking for? Well the thing is, once you really get to know who Tina is, and what Tina stands for you won't care what anyone things when you say no. You will know yourself well enough to trust that when you make a decision, it's because it is the decision Tina belives in.

That makes it even harder. See, I do know me. And I get joy from lovingly serving people. I enjoy giving things away. I live a simple life myself, but share all that I have with my family. The REAL Tina WANTS to share everything with her husband! But I feel exploited when I get nothing but disrespect in return. When he treats me like I don't exist, that my needs don't matter at all. I want him to try to meet my needs so I can feel good about giving him everything I can to make his life wonderful! But it doesn't work somehow.

So I have to learn to be something that is NOT me, NOT so giving, NOT so generous...to keep from having my heart broken. I am so confused.