It was so hard to do that today, and when I first shared my story on this thread, the answer I got was basically, "no wonder he cheats on you, you act like you are his mother and nobody wants a mother." When I read that, it hurt so bad. I have always given him everything he wants, because I don't want him to feel like I'm "in charge". I'm desperately trying NOT to be his mother. I did things for him because I was trying to be nice. I was trying to give him time to decide what he wanted to do with his life. He couldn't go back to his old career. He was basically a middle-aged manager without the right degrees whose position was more or less made obsolete. I wanted to give him time to find himself. I never expected it would come to this.
I want to do God's will in my life and to work through this if it is possible to save my marriage. I read Dr. Dobson's book and I do need to try some tough love. But I am not a tough love person. I am a "be nice and generous with what you have" person.
Learning to say "no" is really hard for me. Thank you for your encouragement.
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