I can't begin to tell you how much I appreciate you for taking the time to tell me your story. I absolutely relate to your story and that is exactly the boat that we are in right now. We get along just fine and dandy as long as I do not ask that he meet my needs. We had an R talk the other day and once again he was not willing to discuss anything and finally I just said this: "You have made it very obvious to me that you do not want to talk about this, you do not want to give me any reassurance, and I just do not feel like you are completely here. Now, it's up to me. I have to decide whether I am willing to accept what you are willing to give, because I have finally realized that MY needs are just as important as YOURS." I'm going to take some time to really think about what I need and what my "dealbreakers" are and then I will tell him what they are and give him a choice.
Life is about choices...it's time I made one and stuck to it for MY sake and not anyone else's sake!
Again, thank you for your story and for sharing the your strength with me!
Me: 31 H: 30 Kids: D9 Together almost 12 years Married almost 5 years EA began: 8/10 Separated: 3/11
