this is the worst

[grr]

we had lunch together today and actually had a pretty decent time (except for the knot in my stomach) but on the way home he talked about the kind of men i should be dating

which kind of ruined the ok time

being alone right now sorta s*(ks

and this is not meant to be a "pity party", but i just needed to reach out

thanks for listening

[Tina2111]

Wow. That [censored] a LOT.

I'm sorry he did that to you. It was very insensitive.

[♪CS♪]

I think you know my opinion on this. You feeling this way is exactly why.

I just don't think it is healthy for you.

But...

If you do put yourself in this spot.

Be confident! Be sarcastic (if it fits you). Be witty. Be fun. Be happy.

but on the way home he talked about the kind of men i should be dating

He says something like this again.

Maybe smirk and say "oh, I can do better than that."

Good luck grr.

[grr]

thanks tina....he always has been very insensitive....the kind of guy who could walk into a room, and not notice if you've been crying

country.......i kinda did that and yes, sarcastic does fit me


blah...................

thanks guys

[dl443322]

So sorry, sweetie.

They are inside their own head. No room for anyone else up there while they are in the tunnel.

I know you know that you do not need anyone to fulfill you or make you happy.

Fill your life with things that will make memories. And if you feel that way when you are with him, you need to work on detaching more. Might not be good for you to be around him right now,

I knew I liked you - sarcastic is one of my charms - LOL!

I hope you gave him a great smile and a nice comeback.

Hang in there. You will be ok.

[punkin]

I'm stunned. He actually told you what kind of men you should be dating? Brooklyn is so right. I hope you had a snappy comeback, because if ever a remark deserved a smart a$$ answer, that is one.

[seeking answers]

Grr,

He's an insensitive lout, but remember to believe nothing that they say. It has been my experience from reading and hearing that saying that you should date and actually knowing that you are dating is two different things. I've heard of many MLCer's when they find out their S or XS is dating, well it kind of puts their shorts in a twist.

Apparently, even MLCers don't like to think they can be replaced, even when they're the ones that walked.

As far as comebacks, tell him thanks for the advice dear, but I'm going to be a h3ll of a lot more selective than that the next time.

Or you could say, do you really think so and so would make a good step father for S?

Now, I'm just kidding with these comebacks as they are against DB principles but sometimes...

Hang in there. Better days are coming!

[figgeroni]

you could tell him you are saving yourself for a married man...you hear it is the "in" thing

although that might be more b*tchy that sarcastic!!!

[grr]

ha! he had told me that i should date someone handsome with a good job, and i asked him "what makes you think i wouldn't have wanted to upgrade?"

[25yearsmlc]

sarcasm that makes the point in a funny enough way

can score a point AND diffuse a situation

so I FAVOR THEM!!


So many come to mind w/that comment of your h's...

-I was going to try women next time

-I already date. Now hurry up b/c I have someone waiting for me...

-so many men, so few decades


MLCers honestly don't know what they are saying.

Among h's complaints back when...

is that he expected me to be a "Senator by now"

and he forgot (literally, I think)

a lot of things he said that were clearly not in favor of our family.

Doesn't believe he "could have said that"...and he means it.

Oh well. Try hard to have your sense of humor intact. It helps.