Wife of 6-Years is Divorcing Me pt.IV

[aeolianchaos]

Now, I'm not blaming her for the path we took, because that's something any good spouse would do; in fact, I really enjoyed the journey.

But the fact that she downplayed my smaller, yet important role in her successes and milestones just isn't right.

DUDE.

I have experienced many similar feelings with my W. Not in Med., but in the arts.. always putting my aspirations on the back burner in support of hers. There were other issues at play there, but still.

I think that the problem is, as you noticed.. the W can use what we once did out of our idea of 'being a good spouse' as a justifier for why they don't want to be with us anymore. It's cr@p and while they may have legitimate complaints, they tend to rewrite history to ignore our contributions to their success - material, emotional, and otherwise.

But I guess the bigger question is - what do we want to do now? Obviously the existing SOP isn't working, so we get to choose a different course. It could be a little different or a lot, depending on what we want to be doing with ourselves.

You sound like someone with a very good education and probably were doing very well on your own before you met your W. Any of that stuff that you feel like you lost and might wish to recover?