I guess I never initiated anything on holidays for a number of reasons. I felt that he had made himself clear that as far as he was concerned it was over. Also there was no real opportunity. We slept in seperate rooms. He generally went straight to bed when the kids did (or down to use the internet to talk to her) - I think only one night we sat and watched tv. And yes I was fearful he'd reject me, cause a scene and I'd be stuck in a foreign country with a husband who resented me even more.

I don't talk to him about anything other then the children and money issues. I don't bring up her name at all. Apart from when it started and I told him that I didn't believe it had just happened I haven't mentioned it to him.

Her daughter is 5 - my kids are 6 - they all adore each other. For him life is probably easier - he has one less child now. He only has my kids one night a fortnight - 3 kids to 2 parents - it's just a fun game for him.

H 34, W 36
T 13.5
M 8.5
C 6yo twins
S 6/5/11
OW 7/6/11
OW moves in 9/18/11