My W gets extremely agitated when I am happy around the house. I’m working the 180 as much as possible. Is it possible to overdue it? My happiness is not manufactured for the most part. I am not acting. She is just frickin miserable most of the time and I am pretty upbeat these days. Am I pushing her away because of this?
My DB coach basically says I should try to make her comfortable around me. Make myself attractive. I think I am making myself attractive but is p’ing her off in the process productive? Can she be attracted to someone who makes her agitated because their happy? Weird situation.
Don't fake it. Involve yourself with legitimate things, and with genuine introspection and self-improvement, so that your happiness radiates GENUINELY as a result of how you feel about yourself. If she says that it's pi$$ing her off, say something like "Look, I'll be honest, I wouldn't wish what we're going thru on ANYONE, but I've also used this challenging time to find out some things about myself that I wasn't too crazy about, and I like the improvements I'm making. I still have a long way to go, but I've decided that life is too short and I choose to be happy, and not miserable."
