I am sure she does know how much you have invested in her career. You just do your part.
Whatssup, Karma.
I'm not sure how she truly feels or thinks about it right this moment, but if you were to ask her, she would strongly declare that I was of no support to her during her studies, that I made her life harder than it needed to be, that she could've done it all by herself and the med school experience would probably have been better/easier.
This has been one of our pain-points in the latter years of our marriage, especially when I kept losing my jobs. My reason why I'm not an industrial engineer anymore, why I didn't pursue my Masters in Germany (like I initially intended), why I'm in a completely different field, why I'm always starting at the lower end of the career totem pole, was for the sake of her college choices. Now, I'm not blaming her for the path we took, because that's something any good spouse would do; in fact, I really enjoyed the journey.
But the fact that she downplayed my smaller, yet important role in her successes and milestones just isn't right. I think this downplaying is even more prominent nowadays. As y'all might've seen from how she's played that "card" when we handle time with our son or our dog. I could write more, but I find it really hard to articulate or put into words.
