OK, Hubby is in MLC...but do I have to PAY for it?

[Tina2111]

I get confused because everything I have read about MLC says "you can't ask him to do anything for you or to change, you just have to wait for him to work it out."

But "waiting for him to work it out" under the status quo means he gets to exploit my generosity for X years while he figures out his life.

If I am going to have boundaries, I have to say "no" to things I have always said "yes" to. Isn't that violating a cardinal rule of MLC, trying to control his changes?