I couldn't help myself and I know I will get 2x4s. I was so mad and upset and watching my kids cry...It's like it is starting all over again because of H saying he was coming home in Jan. It's just so much worse now.....I have never seen a single thread where the in-laws were so highly involved in breaking up a M when they know (they have to see it) H is ill. So I sent this message to H's BIL.
H's BIL, D14 told me that she contacted you and showed me all of the messages you both exchanged. She will not be contacting you or anyone in your family. I told her months ago to let it go because it all falls on deaf ears and she will get no where. All she asked of you was to relay a message to her father and you had to say mean things to her. The only one playing with anyones emotions and feelings is your family! What goes on with my daughter and her father is not to be broad casted through the family. This is between me, H, and her and no one else.
And another thing is S20!!! How the hell would you or SIL like it if the men that raised you dropped you like a piece of trash after claiming you were their child for 15 years?? D14 is only 14 and is going through a lot so the only ones that need to act their ages are the adults! For God's sake they are kids not adults. And as far as leverage you have NO clue, I'm not the one that ever did that, she was told she could see him whenever she wanted to. I'm not like that and never was like that. Everyone including H said his ex GF did that while SS18 and SS16 were growing up.
I don't know who wrote those messages to D14, you, your wife, or H but they were very hurtful to her but then again this is falling on deaf ears. Unless you know the whole story and the truth please don't hurt my children! I wouldn't treat any child even if it was a total stranger the way all of you treat my children! Just wish all of you would put yourselves in S20 and D14's position but I know it will never happen and it's really sad! S20 might not be related through blood but SFIL, H, and his brother always treated him like family cause guess what? He was till we separated then all of a sudden we start going through a divorce and everyone divorces him and D14! Wow and shame on anyone that treats any child the way H is and the way she got treated by MIL and SIL.
I know 100% fact I never did anything wrong but I still was kind enough to write that letter to all of you when H asked me to when he wanted to come back home. Also if all of you care and love H so much why would you sit there and watch him drink himself to death????? Don't worry about D14 contacting you or anyone again or me contacting any of you. Can't believe this crap all over D14 wanting for her father to love her again and asking you to tell him.
She does not have your number and doesn't need it because if H would just act his age and be civil she could contact him and he could contact her. One thing I have to say about myself is I went way out of my way to be civil to people that I thought believed in marriage really don't! Anyone that pushes for a divorce has no morals or values. I didn't get my family involved and your family shouldn't be involved. H is an adult and needs to stop acting like a child. Running to everyone telling them his business. All I wanted was for this was to be civil between me and H as far as the divorce that he wants and as far as the kids but NOPE! Maybe if outside influences weren't involved it could have gone a lot smoother. Would you want your children treated like this if God forbid you two got a divorce by extended family and such? Don't know any parent that would.
Like I said, all she wanted was for you to relay a message not to hurt her more. So sorry H's BIL or SIL (don't know who I'm writing this to) but stop telling my daughter that it has nothing to do with me and my S20. We are all she has.....I could care less what you think or say about me and what you believe that H claims! SIL had SFIL, how would she have felt if he said she wasn't related? Not good I bet. I never did that to SS18 and SS16 and deep down H knows I treated those boys great! I will never stop loving them no matter what they feel because of all the lies being told. Take care and she won't bother you again. One last thing, if I have to say something I will, and won't go through anyone. I also know all of you are loving every bit of the conflict between me, H, D14, and S20 I'm not stupid or vulnerable like H is, he's not stupid but vulnerable he is, but he's not my problem anymore. I think you should reread what you wrote to my daughter and put yourself in her shoes about how mean and hurtful your words were. He knows my kids are my life so he is the one using leverage to hurt me by hurting these kids but it doesn't work anymore. Such bitterness I have never seen before and out and out meaness too. H is turning out just like the rest of you and that is what you wanted, I've seen you ruin families before and here you go again.
This is teenage s*** and to think adults are acting like this, it's just a shame.
You don't have to worry ever again about D14 or me contacting you again. Sry she bothered you but when she told me this morning and was crying and then called again upset it made me angry! Just glad you are getting a rise out of causing more friction that you have already caused since January and February.
