25 is there anyway you can hop over to my thread...I'm so sorry for the hijack life.
Life, I can't tell you how much I admire you. I'm going on almost 3 years of S. Just in January H was claiming he wanted to come home and that he loved me.
I've been standing for my M for almost 3years. I have put it all in God's hands. Not only am I being blamed for the way my H felt before he left by him but also his Mother's side of the family. And the kicker is that I was the one that didn't want to get married yet, but I let his mother and sister talk me into it, now they hate me. H didn't speak to his mother, sister, and brothers for over 12years and started speaking to them 1 year after we separated. H's mother and father have been divorced for 34 years now. No one contacts our kids....you would have to read my thread to understand.
Just last week our D14 contacted H's brother in law asking if he would please let H know that she loves and misses him, well H's brother in law went off on this child like you wouldn't believe. Told her she needs to grow up, and that I use her as leverage to play on H's emotions, and that my S20 is not related to them. It was so mean and awful. That is the way H's mother and sister always were so I don't know if sister's husband is this way now too or sister was pretending to be H's brother in law when she answered D14's note. Claimed D14 was resentful in her letters. I was like wth???? All the poor kid wrote was 2 sentences saying I love and miss you Daddy and I know we have been fighting but I wish you would call or write (H lives 3 miles away). Now this is H's family that H didn't speak to because H overheard them having a fit that he wanted to adopt my son a year after we were married.
So since the separation the only time H talked to my S20 that he claimed was his for 15 years, was when S20 contacted him when we had a phone number for him to see if he wanted to play pool or something and H always told him "sure, how about Sat.?" That day still has not come and now H is treating my S20 the way that his family did all those years ago.
My sitch went from getting better to way worse within 6 months. Instead of an OW controlling H it is his family. I want to fix things for H and the kids at least but I don't know how. My kids are a mess again and so am I. It was like starting over from the very beginning. Oh, and D14 was also told she knows where H's brother in law lives and if she wanted to talk she could find a ride and it better not basically be by me. Will attach letter from H's BIL.
To H's family, because I have seen it many years ago with his brother's they love to cause trouble and hurt, they are very bitter people, love drama, and could care less about H.
Sorry for going on and on but can use advice. I will post the messages on my thread, I'm so sorry for the hijack but I don't know where to turn. I have been GAL, but when D14 and S20 were crying once again on Sunday morning and then this morning I just wanted to scream. S20 has a mentality of of 10 year old. These people waited until I married their son/brother and then showed their true colors about my son.
