I have come to believe that, over time, we teach people how to treat us. I think this is true with you and your husband.
The answer to your thread question is "No, of course not," but I suppose you already knew that. You are ENABLING him, and while you cannot control him or his actions, you can certainly stop rescuing him from the natural consequences of them.
What you're doing now is neither good for you . . . OR him.
