Thanks all who commented on my previous posts about the text message. I went with "Good luck on the test." She did not reply.

What's bothering me today is really the fact that my wife is taking her last test before she officially becomes a doctor.

I feel really frustrated/angry and envious. Even though she will say otherwise, I feel like her becoming a doctor was OUR journey and uphill battle, so now as I stand on the outside and watch her finish (at least in title, not necessarily career-wise), I can't help but feel like I've been sidelined. True, I brought a lot of crap into our marriage which caused a plenty of grief in her life, but in terms of covering for my wife when it came to her medical endeavor, I was always there. My love expression/language was, among other things, tasks, after all.

So I feel frustrated/angry and envious because I see any other guy who comes into her life as riding my coattails. Medical school is a killer for the majority of marriages and relationships (7 of 10 couples end up divorced), so let's just say I feel gypped. I made concessions for her to pursue her dreams, and here I am.


M37, S5
M-7y; T-8y
Separated 060410
Wife/son moved 022611
Wife serves d-papers 032011
I filed child custody 042012; obtained custody 070312
Bifurcated 103112