Just Be

[MHL]

Again, I'm just living my life right now. Trying to bring a little joy back into it. I lost my mojo. I need to find it.

Denver,
I completely understand this, finding that mojo is definitely key in finding your center again.

Unfortunately part of finding that mojo, for a man is confirmation that a woman will find us attractive, funny, smart, strong and all those other things that make us "MEN".

There is nothing more confirming of those "manly" traits than the warm touch of a woman.

I understand that you are being open and honest with this OW and she may be on board with where you are at however I am wondering if you are being open and honest with yourself?

At some point in the future will you be wondering if this current relationship with OW stood in the way of your W making a decision to recommit to working on the marriage?

Will you be okay wtih that??

I highly doubt that your W will come to you in a month or two and say that she wants to work on the marriage if you are with the OW or for that matter any other woman.

I think you have really started to let your W be, you are finally giving her the space she has wanted all along........it is not a "fake it until you make it" thing.

She felt that distance when you went to the reunion, she texted you late at night..........WHY???

This was before she knew about the OW......right???

What were you doing differently???

Now imagine a month or two of doing that with no other woman in the picture..........

Hope this helps,

Cheers