Youngster's WAW Chooses OM, Now She's in Love!

[25yearsmlc]

I will readily admit that I didn't do much about the problem -- just figured it would "work itself out."

Good insight here^^^.

WE all make mistakes and you're in the club of humans who are flawed.



Sorry, there was a lot of frustration that came out of my last comment. The physical stuff with OM really upsets me and makes me feel angry. Given that men typically react to the physical stuff more, it's understandable.

I don't think it's easier for women, we're just cheated on more often. The thought of our spouses with OPs is as sickening for us...trust me. My fiancee (before h) cheated on me and I could NOT get the image out of my head for the longest time.


I tried exercising reguarly to make me feel better about myself in that area, but after a couple of weeks in, this whole thing happened.

IDK what this^^^ means.


My W also admitted that we felt like we were "going through the motions," which I will agree with. I rarely tried to spice things up or do things differently. I'm planning on reading some literature about this subject -- might as well learn as much as possible.

That's excellent!

As for "getting better," she simply worked on herself until it got to the point where her PTSD from the incident didn't upset her or make her not like sex anymore. She read a lot of sexy stories online to help herself out. When she got better,

she simply told me that I should "work on my sexuality" because it seemed like I wasn't a sexual person at all. When I asked for ideas to make it less vague, she said, "I don't know, figure it out."

Now, in retrospect, what do you think SHE meant? More initiating? More knowledge on your end? You don't have to be a mind reader.

You can sensually ASK her where she wants to be touched, etc...

(the books will give you good info here and you'll have to figure out which "methods" work best with your w, if she's not a sex talker or if she is, if she wants to show you or if she's too shy, etc).

I would urge you to keep working out. The more comfortable you are with your body's appearance, and the stronger you are, the better a sex partner you'll be.

Good work.