I will readily admit that I didn't do much about the problem -- just figured it would "work itself out." Sorry, there was a lot of frustration that came out of my last comment. The physical stuff with OM really upsets me and makes me feel angry. Given that men typically react to the physical stuff more, it's understandable. I tried exercising reguarly to make me feel better about myself in that area, but after a couple of weeks in, this whole thing happened. My W also admitted that we felt like we were "going through the motions," which I will agree with. I rarely tried to spice things up or do things differently. I'm planning on reading some literature about this subject -- might as well learn as much as possible.
As for "getting better," she simply worked on herself until it got to the point where her PTSD from the incident didn't upset her or make her not like sex anymore. She read a lot of sexy stories online to help herself out. When she got better, she simply told me that I should "work on my sexuality" because it seemed like I wasn't a sexual person at all. When I asked for ideas to make it less vague, she said, "I don't know, figure it out."
