Tad, you are stuck in a loop. And so, you just keep going round and round.
You need to get unstuck so you can move forward.
So, when your w texted you about your son, you could have either ignored her texts or let her know as son is 18, it is between the two of them.
I can see where it you think it might help you to understand. But, that's like trying to nail jello to a wall - it aint gonna happen.
No amount of obsessing over it is going to help either.
You just have to accept that she is is crisis. There is no logincal explanation for it and it is her journey to take. Your job is to get out of the way, man.
Get your head out of her head. Stay out of the relationship between her and your children.
And who cares is she is angry, sad, happy or a freakin alien? No you, because you are living your life, right?
