She told me that what she didn't like about me (and subsequently likes about OM) is that I'm too "hesitant" or acts afraid to touch her in ways that might upset her. The thing is, my wife was also the victim of a sexual assault when she was a teenager, so that's the way that I had to treat her for years. I feel kind of upset on this one because she got really better in that area over the last year and didn't really work with me on it. She just told me to change and when I didn't, she took off. I'm not saying that I wasn't at fault -- I played my part. But I think she really could have worked together with me on the sex stuff and she just assumed that I was the only one who should have changed.
