I agree with the others -- GIVE HER SPACE. No TMs, no "needy/grabby" behavior.
Your wife is angry right now -- LIVID, even -- because she very likely feels that "Oh great, NOW he makes these changes -- after HE FORCED ME to make some really STUPID DECISIONS, and now I've screwed up! How DARE he make these changes NOW, after I've been hurting for so long!!!"
Might not be fair, but that is likely the thought/feeling process she's going thru right now.
