Whatever negatives she had about you, that were valid, are things you must now contrast with positives...
If she said you were too shy, you need to open up. Make sure she knows her old negative data about you isn't valid anymore... like with the bills.
Now you need to be paying them on time and maybe reading about investing or personal finance (good to know this stuff anyhow and it's stressful being the one to pay all the bills...very very stressful and burdensome). That's a good change.
What about the physical aspects of your sex life? Have you worked on or talked about her unmet needs?
If you're embarassed to say what you are doing, that's fine, but
DO something in that arena
b/c she out & out told you two things: your sex life
1) had to improve; and
2) it was VERY important to her--as in, a deal breaker. No one is born with this know how. It's learned.
You need to do some serious reading And or talking to a sex therapist. They exist for a reason.
Don't pooh pooh this. Its going to matter the rest of your life AND it'll change
the dynamic in all your future r's with women.
It's going to help your confidence too.
How about your GAL things?
What activities are you now participating in that helps you Not obsess about your w
and to be happier when she's not around anyhow?
Hope at least one of the GAL includes meeting new people.
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
