I guess I thought that the stuff I listed were 180s. I guess I could try being more specific. They do seem rather vague.
--When we were together, I took care of the grunt work while my W handled things like bills and finances. Many times, I would rely on my W to solve problems for me in this area rather figure out how to do it myself. Since reading DR, I pledged to not rely on her one bit if I could avoid it. I filled out the sep. paperwork and scheduled all of the court stuff myself. --No begging, whining, crying, reasoning, etc. This is a biggie for me. I did this a lot in our R, even at times that were nowhere near as dire as this. The distance thing and not contacting her is big, too. In our R, I quickly made myself out to be the emotionally needy, dependent one. I've been stepping away from that role. --Being upbeat and sounding strong when I speak to her. I just know that she expects me to be a puddle on the floor these days and finds it odd when I don't sound as though I'm about to break down crying.
That's better, I think. Was that more where I should be headed? I appreciate the advice. It's the only way I'll stay on my toes and stay focused.
