This is part of the reason I have come to the conclusion that I would like to end all contact with her.
What is the reason she is texting you or trying to communicate with you? i don't know gritter and that is what I am trying to ge to the bottom off.
Originally Posted By: JustStunned
The way I read this you wish to end contact, go dark. We certainly know how to do that. No reasons for explanations. Just a simple I prefer not to have contact with you. Leave her to wonder why, to pursue. See I am kind of fed up with games. One thing I will say about my X is that she never went dark on me, she always answered my phone calls and always called me. I don't really feel right just cutting her off without telling her.
Is it more than that? No I don't think so. There is no reason for contact, at least not how I view it. In my mind, she is stringing me along and I just want to say enough is enough.
Are you allowing your hurt to determine a reaction? Maybe,but the big difference is that now I am not setting boundaries I am not willing to enforce. That was something I learned very early on and for the most part I stuck with. I don't speak unless I enforce it. This is why even after I found out about her moving to Tulsa I did not react or make any rash decisions. I waited.
Are you looking to provoke a response? I pretty much know what the response will be so I am not worried about it too much. Time to grow up and take control.
We’ve been at this only a little while now. I know it seems long, but consider some of the folk have been at this for years. I have incredible respect for those people, unfortunately I am not that guy. I don't hold on for years. It is just not in me. If she would have never involved OM I could have waited for years but my line has been my line since day one. She knows that which is part of the reason she never came clean about it.
We’ve been at this long enough to know a carefully considered calculated response is far more productive than a snap reaction. Exactly why I did not address this tonight. Decided to wait a few days at the request of a close friend.........Denver
You are taking the time to clear your head and center yourself. You have the time to check your gear and intent once more before stepping off. Take it to be calm and clear if/when you have contact. I love it. That is right. I have checked equiptment, I have hooked up but when the jumpmaster says it is time to go, then it is time to go. There is always fear before you count to 4 but you still take that step. You know what I mean.
