So I know you understand the hurt. First when your kids had to go and now, when she threatens you with them... you'll probably feel it again, when she uses them to communicate with you... DO NOT DO THAT, BTW...
All comm to your W should be direct or through the L.
Anyhow, except for the kids you have ZERO reason to talk with your W. N/C with her unless she interferes by picking up phone. Just use your best "joe cool" to get past her.
And like I said... any wrong words... you know what she's capable of...
