Good stuff to think about, 25. I've had many of the same thoughts myself: it seems like I'm slowly reversing the momentum, but what about making genuine changes? I feel like I'm slowly working them in, including:
--relying on myself more --not allowing my emotions to get the best of me and/or wallowing in them --being kind to her when she accuses me of things rather than getting defensive. Defensiveness was one of my go-to behaviors in any number of our arguments. --being more confident about myself and my abilities
I still really need to work on being more in the present, being more in tune with other people's needs, and realizing that meeting my own needs is not the only goal. Also, I want to let my wife go for now in my mind. I feel like I'm focusing more on how much I want her back in my life as opposed to how I really want to use this time changing myself.
Yes that is probably accurate. And Those "changes" sound really good.
But what SPECIFIC CHANGES have YOU made?
What are your 180s? (You read the DB books so you know what I mean when I say "180", right?)
Why would your wife believe that TODAY marriage to you
would be different or better than before?
THIS IS KEY...and
it will help you in ANY future r with a woman, preferably your w.
Long distance marriages require MORE work, not less.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
