9,

My deepest sympathies.

For someone who usually has no trouble with words, I am at a loss.

Having read the entire thread, I agree with the advice and support you are getting. You need to grieve, and you need to teach your boys to grieve. You can't heal without it.

Be kind to yourself.

Peace
PEI


Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc