If she asks then you can say it. If she doesn't ask, she's not looking to hear that from you, imo.
IF & when she says she's sorry for it,
then AND ONLY THEN--you can say
"I forgive you but I know I own a role in how it happened and for that, I am sorry and hope you'll forgive me...now let's move on, "from this day forward"...
otherwise your progress sounds good. I don't think I ever said "Oh h, I forgive you" in some formal way.
I did say at one point, "Don't worry that I'll throw this in your face forever b/c I won't" and that was after he said he'd made a huge mistake.
The time he said, in tears, with true insight and remorse, how much damage he had done to our children/family
I simply hugged him and said "well, we're HERE now, we all survived"
b/c I felt that saying anything about forgiving, at that moment, would've been hurtful or the wrong thing to say.
But that's my situation and may not apply to yours.
i do know that you saying you forgive her, is likely NOT to get the result you want.
You admit you are an aggressive man. is that another word for selfish or impatient?
Can it sometimes be those?
Be wary of old traits resurfacing so fast...
Again, what are those 180s???
How will marriage to you, specifically,
be different today than before?
That's the "marketing challenge" you have, as I see it.
And behaviorally, the ones above.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
