Tina, I'm going to say something to you, that I would not normally say on these boards. You need to decide if this man is worth it. Is he ever going to step up and be the man you deserve him to be? There wouldn't appear to be much evidence of it.
You have only been with him a short time. He is using you and you are letting him. You deserve better than that.
You need to work on your self-love and self esteem. You need to work on you.
Please get some individual counselling. There's a good site at http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ which will help you think about co-dependence and selfworth. I recommend having a good look at it.
This is a marriage saving site - and I respect that you wuld like to save your marriage. Sometimes you have to save yourself first.
((hugs))
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
