update: lawyer suggested giving H an ultimatum. Choose me or OW. If not me, file. Legally it is the only way to protect myself financially. She wants me to let him know that I will file then. I really do not want to even give him the choice. I think I am done. THere has been to much damage. If he wants me then fight for me cause Im sick of being rejected. I have already in the past told him"lets start over-get help" "it can be done" but no response from him. I am sickened by his behavior. Going to think on this for a bit. I really feel its his turn to come to us.
