Wait, why shouldn't I make friends isn't that part of GAL?
The independence for her comes from me realizing that part of the reasons she hit an MLC at 25 was because she felt trapped and completely dependent on me. First off, maybe you're incorrect here^^. Maybe she's just self centered or mentally ill or both...IDK, but she's done nothing to change the situation so, SECONDLY, what difference does it make WHY she's mistreating you, if SHE refuses to change?
According to schnarch, when someone becomes so important that they could seriously affect you if they were to leave, it is normal to push that person away in order to not be so vulnerable. All the psychoanalyzing has gotten you where? You're reading a book and diagnosing AND treating your wife...and what's new?
The key according to schanrch is to help them reach a good level of autonomy so they don't feel neither neglected or trapped.
It's not working.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
