For me I guess I'm really trying to reconcile the "be the best husband I can be" ~KD and let her put on the BGP ~Starsky.
I think the solution is to help when asked and step aside when not. I am making a conscious effort to keep things up around the house here.
KD yes we live separately. But we're together most of the time. We run a small business together. We also have most of our meals together and for the most part act as a couple. Go to lunch together. Shopping together. Maybe a little less than before but not to much. On weekends sometimes she stays away sometimes not. Generally she leaves pretty late and comes in pretty early. Although lately she has been coming in later (She always asks if that ok strangely) which I attribute to her depression.
She kisses me when she shows up and she kisses me when she leaves. Sometimes she kisses me when she's just going out on a short errand.
Used to be I would kiss her several times throughout the day. I have stopped that. I would also kiss her several times when she was on her way out. I have stopped that. I let her kiss me but I do not approach nor position myself for a kiss any longer.
We've had a rough number of years financially as probably every small biz has. There were some extenuating circumstances that also put a great deal of pressure on us. It's been tough. So because of that I work a lot. I'm always on the computer. A 180 for me is to always take at least one day off a week. I'm trying to take it with her but we'll see how that goes.
My truck just blew a tranny so we're sharing a car. That leaved me without one most of the time. So getting out and GAL has it's limits. Mostly I go each night up to the baseball fields. Watch the end of the girls softball game and then do my workout once everyone is gone.
I'm training for my 4th degree black belt. In Oct we have a big event and I'm up for promotion. So each night I train very hard at the baseball fields. It's pretty late at night. I'm dropping weight because of the training. It's very important to myself and my wife that I really shine in the Oct event. So I'm making that happen by training very hard. It releases a lot of stress chemicals and I feel pretty good. I look forward to it each day.
So my GAL doesn't involve community in any way. I'm up there training alone. I'm not sure what to do more than that at this point.
