I'm confused. What exactly did you do that was different?
On the first point I was responding immediately after our talk, obiously that was premature, as the day played out much better than I expected. Clearly it achived a better result than I had anticipated immediatly following our conversation. So basically Having a Relationship talk did help.
Only when you pulled back and stopped pushing. WHen you didn't issue ultimatums or condemn...
On the second point I had been going dim, avoiding relationship talk. Obviously that was good to give her time to sort things out, but now she was glad we had talked and felt better about things and agreed to being more open communication and more time together.
more time together AS A FAMILY b/c she said it's important the kids see "both of you happy"...did she say "happy TOGETHER AS A COUPLE"??
I don't want to rain on your parade but you are, again, getting ahead of yourself when you discuss
Dating...as if it's a given. Don't push anymore. Let things brew, let things warm...
and we'll see. When you ask for "dating advice" I have to say DON'T DATE NOW...she's so not ready.
She hasn't had time to trust your changes. She has said nothing about wanting to date you, that I saw. Sorry if I missed that.
I am going to slowly introduce more family activities together, and when I see positive momentum and signs of interest from my W, I will start dating her again. See above note. Learn to have patience AND boundaries.
My thinking is an informal family time with the kids will create positive memories and open her heart. I am also going to keep working on my GAL.
GOOD^^^.
My goal is to win her over again just like I did when we were dating. I know that is a long term process ^^^And a long term goal. What are your short term measurable goals?
and now I have to be cautious to do whats working and abandon what doesnt. Only carefull DBing at this point will help me keep "My foot in the door"
Johnnie
So now, back off.
And expect some cold shoulders from her as she'll withdraw.
She'll run, if you push her. So no more ultimatums unless you're really ready for either outcome.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
