Accept the help of friends and family for anything offered or needed. There is nothing wrong with accepting it.
As for the boys viewing their mom, that call is up to you. Right or wrong, you're their father no matter what anyone else says. You're a good man and a good father so it's not anyone else's call.
My prayer's are with your and your boys, who I just noticed are the same age as mine.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK