That begs another question: Are we, in all sense of the word, friends?
We don't hang out, we don't go out for meals and watch movies, we don't laugh and chitter-chatter -- you know, things friends usually do.
All said, I'll probably just text her a simple message. It's harmless (at least I hope so) and it's non-relationship (well, not unless you break it down and analyze it: this career, school and exams have been a big part of our life together, be they ups or downs).
I just realized that my wife will probably say no if I asked for an extra night per week with our son. Bummer
You will not know unless you ask. I'd suggest asking in an email. That way if she says no, you have proof that she is unwilling to meet you halfway. That does not look good in the courts eyes.
As far as the text wishing your W luck. I like what KD suggested. I don't see how it will hurt. I see it as taking the high road. Of course no expectations on a reply from her.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Send the text, that's fine. Do not get dragged into any further conversation as a result. Do not reply if she texts you back.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
Thanks all who commented on my previous posts about the text message. I went with "Good luck on the test." She did not reply.
What's bothering me today is really the fact that my wife is taking her last test before she officially becomes a doctor.
I feel really frustrated/angry and envious. Even though she will say otherwise, I feel like her becoming a doctor was OUR journey and uphill battle, so now as I stand on the outside and watch her finish (at least in title, not necessarily career-wise), I can't help but feel like I've been sidelined. True, I brought a lot of crap into our marriage which caused a plenty of grief in her life, but in terms of covering for my wife when it came to her medical endeavor, I was always there. My love expression/language was, among other things, tasks, after all.
So I feel frustrated/angry and envious because I see any other guy who comes into her life as riding my coattails. Medical school is a killer for the majority of marriages and relationships (7 of 10 couples end up divorced), so let's just say I feel gypped. I made concessions for her to pursue her dreams, and here I am.
Sorry man. Yea i do understand your frustration. Don't get too carried away on the 'other guy' coming into her life. You don't know that yet. I am sure she does know how much you have invested in her career. You just do your part.
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