Im so very sorry to hear of your wifes suicide...I have been reading along ( Iv'e read your stich from the beginning. )
You are getting amazing support from this group, this is a great bunch of people. Please continue to post, journal, rant, vent etc.
It seems so sureal when you lose a loved one to suicide......and once again please dont blame yourself, stay strong for your kids. Youv'e been a wonderful father and will continue to be their rock.
One thing I want to touch on ( My father and 4 other family members have committed suicide over 3 generations resulting from a combination of mental illness and alcoholism ) so I do understand the full range of emotions you are going thru right now. The real WORK will start after the funeral, after the goodbyes, after all the commotion..when everything gets quiet, everyone has gone about their business, is when this is going to hit you like a freight train. Please take people up on their offers to help ( you will know the ones to turn to ) including this loving family here on DB.
My thoughts and prayers are with you today and into the future.