country; not sure about details, i am open to anything. im confused though. trying to figure things out here.
Take care everyone. im doing ok.
miss her so much. just not feeling her presence is wierd.
i acutally dont feel her here anymore. is that possible?
my best friends had a great time tonight. i was in and out of the party scene so to speak. no drinks for me whatsoever and i wont drink throughout. disrespectful in my eyes. jmo
good night all.
9 pete
9,
IDK what others have written as I'm pressed for time.
But a grief class I took taught me that eulogies have a purpose other than someone "losing it up there", & I've given a few, & seen many. The purpose of a eulogy is to
-Honor the departed, and
-Comfort the living...
You honor your w by talking about her, with specifics like the WII story and what she was like when she was at her best. Why you fell in love with her. Her traits, quirks, qualities, history, etc...
THANK HER for your sons and the good years you had together and what you learned from being m to her...including the tough lessons...
It's alright to acknowledge that she was a "complicated woman" and that she had her struggles...
(or else they'll feel you are glossing over the "real her" rather than explaining the
upsides of her and all the good you have seen)...
but you close on a note SHE would want you to close on, something for you and your sons to take from it, that comforts...
There may be some who want meaning from her death
(and maybe there is some, e.g., get the tools for whatever ails you, emotional problems are just as deadly as physical, etc.)
But I wonder if the primary focus ought to be instead,
on her life & how she lived, when she was living well...
Public Speaking-- Take notes up there when you go...
As practiced as I am at this, I never do any public speaking without at least an outline, preferably more. (Ask Denver).
Take deep breaths and let them out when you speak...take your time. No one will rush you.
What you have to say is important enough that you want to retain as much composure as possible. You want the people to know these good things about her.
If you do "lose it", no one will worry but REMEMBER that since
you want them to know these things about her... make it about
honoring her and comforting them...
(and avoid thinking about your loss for just that purpose & time)
AND
you'll do FINE
God, I hope this helps in some small way...
Hugs again
((( )))
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