oh, as far as the deception and lies... if there's one or more EAs you can guarantee that they don't know about each other and she'll never admit them to you, even if you had proof...
at least, that's my experience...
As starsky would likely say...
Get proof or assume the worst...
Not sure if you want the gory details... But in all fairness, as time has gone on and as I find out things appear to be progressing in my W's A... it doesn't really... hurt... any more, when I hear about more stuff...
not too sure if I'm just detached more, or if I really love her but i'm not IN love with her anymore...
Just do what you can to be the best Huh that you can be and she will notice... my W notices some of my "changes" or positive behaviours... even though she isn't attracted to them... she too, is very detached... well, maybe just "cold" with a 10 ft thick wall... because she's still angry... I can feel it and see it in some of our convo
