wow! That's great stuff, girl...

and it's in line with my idea of leg sep and a time frame from that to D.

No, certainly not a punishment by any means. Personally, I think it would be good for me, as well. Because then it would be VERY clear that by the time it was "allowed" to introduce the kids to an OP, I'd be in the mind frame that it was actually real and "serious"...

thank u! smile