I'm all for the ice cream and movies... smile I believe do what feels good... so long as no animals are harmed... grin

When I entered my M, I felt that both me AND my W walked into it with full intention, commitment and responsibility to self, other, M and kids...

And then... when the blaming started... when it got to a point where I really started to believe everything was my fault, even before the M failed, my W bailed, and the A became apparent...

No... I believe the LBS eventually recognizes and owns their responsibility for the failing M... but no one should have to live in a M where the WAS (or preWAS) projects all the M problems on the LBS.

Do you have an exit strategy? A "plan B"?

Do you even have a plan A?

How detached were you? Do you feel you are just a little emotional right now? That in a few hours or a day or two, you will have clarity again and can be pro-active, rather than re-active?