Had some thoughts this weekend about my W and some of the stuff she's "thinking" and doing... Can't remember what they were... ah... how I love getting older...
Anyhow, I did want to just post here about how I see the D process going. Not that it really matters. But in the end, I'm still fighting for my M...
Of course, since I say I'm fighting for my M, it sounds a bit counter intuitive that I will be filing D. All I can say is, as I think I mentioned before, this is the end all and be all LRT.
So, like thus:
1) get with L and file a interim order on custody and some financials
2) begin proceedings for leg sep. + why not straight to D? + yes, it's an extra cost and step, but worth it, I believe + the whole point to this is to protect my financial interest as well as to establish custody and visitation of kids in a legal forum + and once this is completed, we are still M
3) ultimately file D + this will include the processing of the necessary paperwork + this will include a time frame for D filing and completion
What I'm going for here is, that I am specifically looking at the two primary possibilities in this, which are important to me.
+ this process causes a reaction from my W in a positive way (ie. she rethinks the direction she is following) + this process causes a reaction from my W in a negative way (ie. she gets so reactive and angry, that she wants the divorce)
Any middle reaction from my W will be settled by the time frame of the filing of D. Not sure how long I might set that in motion. Perhaps 2 years from leg sep.
So that's the game plan. I'm certainly not looking forward to being D. But my future needs to be open to the possibility that I can morally and ethically consider and begin an R with someone new at some point.
So the plan is forward and future oriented, with a "buy in" option...
I wonder if I should consider a "poison pill" in this contract...?
