It sounds like all three of us are in the same boat -- getting crowded! I wanted to post real quick to suggest that you guys take a look at a website if you haven't already. It's called emotionalaffair.org, and it's a blog written by a husband who had an EA and his wife in order to help them recover, as well as help others learn more. For me, this site was the final nail in the coffin built to contain all my fears about the situation. The wife became a real research nut about the matter (even more than me!) and has lots of great insights to help the LBS get by. Also, the H does a great job at communicating what his experience was like, including being under the dreaded "fog" and being trapped inside the "A bubble." I won't bother to list all of the things it confirmed for me, of which there were many. Instead, I would suggest going through their posts chronologically -- there are over 300, so get ready to read! I'm still, of course, leaving the idea of her leaving me for him permanently open (because you just have to), but suffice it to say that I feel a LOT better about the sitch AND myself after combing through their helpful words.
