Welcome to the boards. Your story sounds like a lot of ours on here and is very familiar.
Could you give us a little background history on the marriage. How long you've been married, your ages, any children. What were some of the problems within the marriage?
The more we know the better we can help advise you.
The best way to avoid the rollercoaster is to not get on. Easier said than done, I know. This is where detaching from your H's antics can help.
It's a little slower on the boards during the weekends. It'll pick up during the week. Keep posting, there will be others around to help you navigate through this.
