Thank you so much for the link, Lotus. I recall seeing Retrouvaille mentioned on this board before as I've been reading the forums a lot since April. It is something I would absolutely be willing to consider...
However, I seriously doubt I could convince my H to go because the program seems to be faith based. He's very anti-religion and scoffs at anything connected to religion. Sigh.
We have tried MC in the past and he usually quits, claims it isn't working or we no longer need it, and then things fall apart again. He doesn't follow the advice given to him by our MC's anyway...
A friend said it sounds like he's having a MLC. If that the case, the man has been having one on and off for 20 years.
As for the possibility of another relationship, I've snooped a lot and haven't found a single shred of evidence. Bad DB'ing I know, but I won't live in an open marriage. Or try to reconcile one with another P involved. If my H is having an affair, that poor W is not getting a lot of his time because he's always here. He works out of our home and when he's withdrawing, he avoids me by going to be early or spending all his time with our S. I did ask (not that I expected I would actually get the truth) and he sighed. He said he can't even deal with this R, nevermind even think about starting another one anytime soon.
Anyway, I agree with you - we clearly can't handle this sitch on our own.
