I don't want to be judgemental in this post so if it comes off that way let me know. When I came to this site 2 years ago I came to save our marriage. I think a lot of us did. I still think our marriage is worth saving. For everybody involved. Me, the kids and for her.
I can't and won't make that choice for her. She really has not looked back.
I do have a life outside of our marriage which this site has definetely helped. I am on my way to total acceptance of the situation. I think I have done a good job of letting go of the situation and concentrating on what I have. My life as a single Dad and my life in general.
Acceptance is difficult journey especially one you didn't expect to take.
Since I am a former MLC'er who did make it too the other side. That is my opinion only. I just know it. I can't explain it other than that way and would like to know any other MLC'er who made it through would describe it the same way.
secondly, I think very few people who enter MLC are equipped to handle such overwhelming stimilus to there systems. That is why the bizarre about face behavior is so prevalent. It can take years of this behavior for many people to finally look inward and understand what this journey is meant for. Thats why I think marraiges are not saved. My wife is one of those that I think will have a difficult time looking inward. I do accept that as a truth.
This site definetely has it right that you need to concentrate on your life. Becoming a better person through an exteremmly difficult time in our lives and our spouse life.
I want to thank all who share there stories here. Life is precious and it is definetely not a straight line.
